Expectations. With friends, there is a certain standard of human kindness and respect that we hold each other to. We care for them, hope for them, smile with them, love them. When we look over and see them sulk, we rush over and tell them to keep their chin up. We can't stand to see them upset. We find any solution possible to cheer them up. We go through the toughest moments together. They have such a powerful impact on our lives. We always find ourselves rushing to them whenever they are struggling. We aren't satisfied until we see a smile peaking out from their distress. It's the least we can do for people we hold so high in our hearts.
When people come into our lives, we hope that they have what it takes to be a proper friend. If they repeatedly disappoint or fail to be dependable at the times you need it the most, chances are they don't hold you in the same regard. Countless people come and go, but it is those who make an effort and show genuine affection and care who stay. In fact, it doesn't even matter how long the friendship has lasted. There are people who you have been with for many years who suddenly drift apart. You could be friends with someone for what seemed like forever and suddenly an event splits you apart, leaving you unable to fix the relationship. Things like that happen. There are also people who you meet and immediately click with. You find someone who shares similar interests or personalities or even someone completely different, but somehow you both respect and care for each other like it was always meant to be.
Friends shouldn't have to have a transactional relationship. Everything that you do for each other should be out of love for the other person. People shouldn't feel obligated to perform actions in hopes of receiving the same in the future. It diminishes the truth of the friendship. Everyone deserves a meaningful community at which they feel like they have purpose. Everyone deserves people who make them feel special. Everyone deserves to surround themselves with those who genuinely want to spend time with them. Because otherwise, how real are the relationships we maintain?
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When people come into our lives, we hope that they have what it takes to be a proper friend. If they repeatedly disappoint or fail to be dependable at the times you need it the most, chances are they don't hold you in the same regard. Countless people come and go, but it is those who make an effort and show genuine affection and care who stay. In fact, it doesn't even matter how long the friendship has lasted. There are people who you have been with for many years who suddenly drift apart. You could be friends with someone for what seemed like forever and suddenly an event splits you apart, leaving you unable to fix the relationship. Things like that happen. There are also people who you meet and immediately click with. You find someone who shares similar interests or personalities or even someone completely different, but somehow you both respect and care for each other like it was always meant to be.
Friends shouldn't have to have a transactional relationship. Everything that you do for each other should be out of love for the other person. People shouldn't feel obligated to perform actions in hopes of receiving the same in the future. It diminishes the truth of the friendship. Everyone deserves a meaningful community at which they feel like they have purpose. Everyone deserves people who make them feel special. Everyone deserves to surround themselves with those who genuinely want to spend time with them. Because otherwise, how real are the relationships we maintain?
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