Pettiness. Especially when things don't go as expected, pettiness is something that consumes us. That is, if we let it. We all get angry, we all get hurt, and we all have thought about firing back. Retaliation and revenge never looked good when someone is hating on you or putting you down. When people act out, they are trying to get a reaction out of you. They are trying to provoke you. Sometimes they don't even have the nerve to do it to your face, so they decide to hurt you indirectly, slowly getting on your nerves. How do you react? As satisfying as it might seem in the moment, don't go after them. They are not worth your time or energy. Choose the path of one who remains calm and overcomes the difficult times.
If we choose to go after them, all we do is become them. What we don't realize is that we are stooping to their level. The one getting bullied becomes the bully, and that's how quick the tables turn. Trust me, this is the last thing you want. These people want to see you suffer. In fact, if you react such that you are unbothered, then they are not fulfilled in their purpose of putting you down. Think about how they think they are making themselves look better than you. At this moment in time, it is your self control that is your superpower. We must be able to use our control and resist the temptation of payback.
Sometimes staying silent and moving on is better. However, we don't have to listen to them. Being silent doesn't make us weak. We are mature enough to accept that there are people in the world who lack the confidence in themselves, making them take their anger out on other people. By being silent, we are not accepting the harsh things they say. We do not succumb to the blows that fire out of their mouths. They have not found the peace within to let you go. They still have some connection to you and are completely unaware of how they are impacting you. Their loss.
As tough as it might be, focus your energy on moving forward. They might shoot you dirty looks, or just flat out ignore you, but don't let if affect you. Make sure you take just the right amount of time to get over them, but after that, there is no reason for you to be hurt. You deserve so much better. You will find that group of people who make you forget about retaliating. They value your presence and you are genuinely happy. You will soon realize that you have never smiled more, laughed more, or felt more alive with any other group of people. Surround yourself with these people who make you value each day. You are nothing like the people who came after you. You are so much better. You knew when enough was enough, and you made the great choice of being the bigger person. And look at you now!
-N
If we choose to go after them, all we do is become them. What we don't realize is that we are stooping to their level. The one getting bullied becomes the bully, and that's how quick the tables turn. Trust me, this is the last thing you want. These people want to see you suffer. In fact, if you react such that you are unbothered, then they are not fulfilled in their purpose of putting you down. Think about how they think they are making themselves look better than you. At this moment in time, it is your self control that is your superpower. We must be able to use our control and resist the temptation of payback.
Sometimes staying silent and moving on is better. However, we don't have to listen to them. Being silent doesn't make us weak. We are mature enough to accept that there are people in the world who lack the confidence in themselves, making them take their anger out on other people. By being silent, we are not accepting the harsh things they say. We do not succumb to the blows that fire out of their mouths. They have not found the peace within to let you go. They still have some connection to you and are completely unaware of how they are impacting you. Their loss.
As tough as it might be, focus your energy on moving forward. They might shoot you dirty looks, or just flat out ignore you, but don't let if affect you. Make sure you take just the right amount of time to get over them, but after that, there is no reason for you to be hurt. You deserve so much better. You will find that group of people who make you forget about retaliating. They value your presence and you are genuinely happy. You will soon realize that you have never smiled more, laughed more, or felt more alive with any other group of people. Surround yourself with these people who make you value each day. You are nothing like the people who came after you. You are so much better. You knew when enough was enough, and you made the great choice of being the bigger person. And look at you now!
-N
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