Loyalty. True friends. How do you know who they are? Are they willing to keep your promises? Are they willing to stand by you when you need it the most? Are they willing to tell you the truth? Remaining loyal to your friends is seriously so important, and we should never underestimate the value of certain friendships. People who are fake, people who only come to you when they want something, or people who do things expecting something in return are not worth our time. I know it might seem that you had a great run with a friend and you are scared to see the friendship end, but you don't want it to hold you back!
In the heat of the moment, it's really sad. The one person you thought you could trust turns their back on you and trades up. You are left there quite literally clueless and wondering what you did wrong. "I'm not even going to tell you what you did wrong, you should know. My friendship with you is only conditional, but other than when I want something from you, we aren't friends." Is this what my 'friends' think of me? All these ridiculous thoughts flood your mind and it comes to a point where it feels real, even though these 'friends' didn't have the nerve to say it to your face. At this point, you must be tired of all their troubles. You start to feel like you've been wasting your time. It drives you insane that you didn't see it before. So you know what? You don't have to put the blame on yourself! You don't have to automatically assume it's because of something you did or didn't do. You don't have to be stepped on and remain powerless. I know it's hard, but you can choose to move on to bigger and better things.
To anyone reading this, if you have a friend or a group of people who you genuinely care about, keep caring for them. Keep being thoughtful and supportive. Please, don't disappear. Loyal friends will be there for you even when you are wrong. You don't have to fight for them to listen to you, it's their instinct. You don't have to constantly ask if they are okay, you know just by their expression. You don't have to beg for their presence, they show up. It's a two-way street. The concept of paying someone back is simply unnecessary! They do what they do because they admire you. They do what they do because you mean something to them. They don't have to do it to get something in return, they do it because they want to see you happy. Your happiness is their happiness. They just want to be there for you in your best and worst moments.
God forbid a friend treats you in the opposite way, especially when you seriously valued their friendship, don't be afraid to strengthen new relationships. But you don't have to completely forget them. Just because things changed doesn't mean you should feel the need to dislike the other person. Instead of them being a friend who will leave a mark on you, they left a scar. You can be the bigger person and wish them the best. In the end, they were the people who made you aware of those you truly cherish in your life. In a strange way, they made you a better person. They prepared you for exciting relationships in your future. I guess that's just another crazy way that life works out. You do you and keep the true friends close to your heart. Now those are the ones you were always meant to make memories with!
-N
In the heat of the moment, it's really sad. The one person you thought you could trust turns their back on you and trades up. You are left there quite literally clueless and wondering what you did wrong. "I'm not even going to tell you what you did wrong, you should know. My friendship with you is only conditional, but other than when I want something from you, we aren't friends." Is this what my 'friends' think of me? All these ridiculous thoughts flood your mind and it comes to a point where it feels real, even though these 'friends' didn't have the nerve to say it to your face. At this point, you must be tired of all their troubles. You start to feel like you've been wasting your time. It drives you insane that you didn't see it before. So you know what? You don't have to put the blame on yourself! You don't have to automatically assume it's because of something you did or didn't do. You don't have to be stepped on and remain powerless. I know it's hard, but you can choose to move on to bigger and better things.
To anyone reading this, if you have a friend or a group of people who you genuinely care about, keep caring for them. Keep being thoughtful and supportive. Please, don't disappear. Loyal friends will be there for you even when you are wrong. You don't have to fight for them to listen to you, it's their instinct. You don't have to constantly ask if they are okay, you know just by their expression. You don't have to beg for their presence, they show up. It's a two-way street. The concept of paying someone back is simply unnecessary! They do what they do because they admire you. They do what they do because you mean something to them. They don't have to do it to get something in return, they do it because they want to see you happy. Your happiness is their happiness. They just want to be there for you in your best and worst moments.
God forbid a friend treats you in the opposite way, especially when you seriously valued their friendship, don't be afraid to strengthen new relationships. But you don't have to completely forget them. Just because things changed doesn't mean you should feel the need to dislike the other person. Instead of them being a friend who will leave a mark on you, they left a scar. You can be the bigger person and wish them the best. In the end, they were the people who made you aware of those you truly cherish in your life. In a strange way, they made you a better person. They prepared you for exciting relationships in your future. I guess that's just another crazy way that life works out. You do you and keep the true friends close to your heart. Now those are the ones you were always meant to make memories with!
-N
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