Trust. I told you something very personal to me, did you have to go and tell everyone else in the room? Was that necessary? Tell me, did it make you feel better about yourself? I thought I could trust you in that moment. Clearly I made a mistake doing that. I learned my lesson. Better it happened with a small secret now, then with a bigger one later. It's moments like these when I realize who my true friends are. You aren't. Now I am more aware of you now. I'm more aware of your intentions, in their selfish glory. But seriously, thank you. I needed that. I need people like you to make me wake up into reality that there are actually only a few people who you can trust. There are only a few people who actually want what's best for you. And you just aren't them.
Does this thought process sound familiar? It's sad how often this sort of gossip happens these days. But I doubt it can really be eliminated. Most people just aren't as good as you think. You never know who you can trust sometimes. You think you are at a place where you are comfortable enough to tell the other person anything. But turns out, you're wrong about that thought. It's frustrating, annoying, disappointing. It takes so long to find the right person or group of people who you can really trust. If it mean that your secrets and personal thoughts are safe with them, maybe it is worth the time and effort spent finding those people.
Secrets are hard to keep. It's hard to go about your life with a secret inside of you that no one knows about. It's hard to not tell anyone exactly how you are feeling at every moment or tell people what you are really going through. If only we can just embrace it and tell someone. For those who realize that keeping secrets with themselves only holds them back, you are the most courageous and powerful people I know. I seriously admire you. It's not easy to just admit to it compared to keeping it to yourself. Imagine if you were brave enough to own up to what you were hiding inside. You wouldn't have to worry about people humiliating you. You wouldn't have to feel powerless and embarrassed.
But then there are those secrets that feel can never come out. If you tell anyone, make sure that you are confident putting your trust in them. Ask yourself, do these people care genuinely care about how I feel? Have these people always been there for me when I needed it the most? It this relationship a two way street? Have they been able to help me before? How much do I value this friendship? If you are able to respond yes to all of these questions, then go for it. Tell them. Really think about what you are going to say before you say it. You don't want any slip ups now. These people have your true interests at heart. They will give you the best possible advice or even just listen to you. They will hear you out and will be there whenever you need to talk, or not talk. They are there for you regardless. I hope you can find these group of people. I wish you the best! You are brave, powerful, strong, and in control!
-N
Does this thought process sound familiar? It's sad how often this sort of gossip happens these days. But I doubt it can really be eliminated. Most people just aren't as good as you think. You never know who you can trust sometimes. You think you are at a place where you are comfortable enough to tell the other person anything. But turns out, you're wrong about that thought. It's frustrating, annoying, disappointing. It takes so long to find the right person or group of people who you can really trust. If it mean that your secrets and personal thoughts are safe with them, maybe it is worth the time and effort spent finding those people.
Secrets are hard to keep. It's hard to go about your life with a secret inside of you that no one knows about. It's hard to not tell anyone exactly how you are feeling at every moment or tell people what you are really going through. If only we can just embrace it and tell someone. For those who realize that keeping secrets with themselves only holds them back, you are the most courageous and powerful people I know. I seriously admire you. It's not easy to just admit to it compared to keeping it to yourself. Imagine if you were brave enough to own up to what you were hiding inside. You wouldn't have to worry about people humiliating you. You wouldn't have to feel powerless and embarrassed.
But then there are those secrets that feel can never come out. If you tell anyone, make sure that you are confident putting your trust in them. Ask yourself, do these people care genuinely care about how I feel? Have these people always been there for me when I needed it the most? It this relationship a two way street? Have they been able to help me before? How much do I value this friendship? If you are able to respond yes to all of these questions, then go for it. Tell them. Really think about what you are going to say before you say it. You don't want any slip ups now. These people have your true interests at heart. They will give you the best possible advice or even just listen to you. They will hear you out and will be there whenever you need to talk, or not talk. They are there for you regardless. I hope you can find these group of people. I wish you the best! You are brave, powerful, strong, and in control!
-N
