Surprise! The word commonly associated with preferable outcomes. But what if it's something that caught you dumbfounded, shocked, or confused? Imagine someone just told you something that you didn't want to hear at the moment. Maybe it was something that you considered deep in the back of your mind, maybe it was something that you didn't expect to occur at all, maybe it was something that you didn't think was even possible to happen. You are kind of just left there speechless, trying to choke up a response, so the other person doesn't think you are impacted. It's really awkward to say the least. Everything was going great until that moment. Now you can't stop thinking about it. It consumed you. Your mood for the rest of the day changed. Don't let if get to you, you repeat to yourself. It just continues to do so. What now?
Stay strong like the warrior you are. How you react is crucial to your perseverance. You can choose to contemplate the situation forever. You can choose to replay the moment in your head over and over again. You can choose to think about it for a little bit and then reset. The next step is how you can take the information that crept up on you and turn it around to your benefit. Evaluate it's impact on your future and where you want to end up. Are there minor things to fix along the way? Is it just a small "new game plan" moment? Or does it cause you to make major directional changes? Is it affecting something you thought you would do forever? I think these are questions we have to address. Talk through it with some buddies. Sit down with them and explain your situation. You will never know how many tidbits of advice you can pick up from them if you don't open up. Trust me, it's a great relief to just rant to those who really care for you.
Don't start hating on the situation. If it's a person who surprised you in the wrong way, try not to fixate on them as people. Don't place any hate or blame on the person or event. Focus on how you can benefit instead. Things are going to happen that aren't in your favor. It's inevitable. But what if this moment helps you realize something you wouldn't have otherwise? What if this moment guides you into making a decision that makes you happier and more successful? Go into it with a positive outlook. Keep that smile on your face. Take a few deep breaths. Everything happens for a reason. You can get through it. I have faith that you will make a decision that you are content with. You got this.
Keep your values at heart. Be mature about your reaction. Focus for a while on how you want to respond. Again, the unexpected and how we choose to get past it makes us stronger. These are life's teaching moments.
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Stay strong like the warrior you are. How you react is crucial to your perseverance. You can choose to contemplate the situation forever. You can choose to replay the moment in your head over and over again. You can choose to think about it for a little bit and then reset. The next step is how you can take the information that crept up on you and turn it around to your benefit. Evaluate it's impact on your future and where you want to end up. Are there minor things to fix along the way? Is it just a small "new game plan" moment? Or does it cause you to make major directional changes? Is it affecting something you thought you would do forever? I think these are questions we have to address. Talk through it with some buddies. Sit down with them and explain your situation. You will never know how many tidbits of advice you can pick up from them if you don't open up. Trust me, it's a great relief to just rant to those who really care for you.
Don't start hating on the situation. If it's a person who surprised you in the wrong way, try not to fixate on them as people. Don't place any hate or blame on the person or event. Focus on how you can benefit instead. Things are going to happen that aren't in your favor. It's inevitable. But what if this moment helps you realize something you wouldn't have otherwise? What if this moment guides you into making a decision that makes you happier and more successful? Go into it with a positive outlook. Keep that smile on your face. Take a few deep breaths. Everything happens for a reason. You can get through it. I have faith that you will make a decision that you are content with. You got this.
Keep your values at heart. Be mature about your reaction. Focus for a while on how you want to respond. Again, the unexpected and how we choose to get past it makes us stronger. These are life's teaching moments.
-N